Beluga Sense- Be Self-reliant
Sooner or later it happens to all of us. A time may come when you will find yourself disappointed or let down because the people you cared about or depended upon weren’t there when you most needed them. But in fact the most important person has always been there for you, and that is you.
Well-adjusted individuals love themselves; therefore, in dealing with every situation, particularly those times of disquiet filled with uncertainty and dismay, they confront adversity boldly and armed with self assurance, become their own cheerleader or confidante. There is a no more reliable source than one’s own self. Whisper inwardly to yourself soothing, consoling words of solace and encouragement. It can without fail deliver the necessary measure of support for your decision or particular choice at each and every turn.
We all have an innate need to feel safe. What’s imperative to know is that none of us want to feel abandoned; therefore we strive to control and manipulate people and events around us, precariously balancing them until problems surface with a bang. Then we become occupied once again with searching for that someone or something to give us the answer that will keep us from feeling vulnerable and isolated. There is however a big difference between asking for counsel on your options and desperately seeking relief. Look for that reassurance within yourself because you are the one reliable person who is always there to unequivocally provide it.
Before you turn to someone else with your dilemma, stop and ask yourself, “Is this a crisis that I really need guidance and advice on or is it that I’m only afraid?” You know you are anxious and fearful when there is an unmistakable knot in the pit of your stomach.
Here are some helpful tips to cope with or eradicate unreasonable fear:
It’s always best to find a quiet spot, get comfortable then take few moments to visualize yourself in your favourite place. Imagine yourself as two people with one of you comforting the other. If you lack the necessary imagination, sit in front of a mirror and talk to your image as if it’s another person. Imagine yourself as two people with one of you comforting the other. Imagine your reflection coaching you, “I’m all ears. I know what’s best for you. You can always count on me to set you on the right course.” or similar words of encouragement.
At the end of it, you’ll find yourself meeting your problems head on with the firm self-assurance of one who knows that they are truly safe.